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Three Common Ways Friendly Churches Screw Up Guest Hospitality

February 20, 20222 min read

Most churches have made concentrated efforts to improve the ways guests are received. Many now have Hospitality Teams in place. There is a sincere desire to offer a great experience for guests. Yet, there is a disconnect between being friendly and offering extravagant hospitality. Being friendly is a good first impression. Hospitality is helping people feel welcome, comfortable, and that one could actually become part of the community. Extravagant hospitality is exceeding one’s expectations. Those who serve on hospitality teams are probably the folks who really are the ones that like people and have a strong desire for guests to have a good experience when they encounter their church. But often, members of hospitality teams are not always well-equipped for this important frontline ministry. Here are common ways churches screw up guest hospitality:

Ushers Aren’t Integrated as Part of the Hospitality Team

Ushers need to be integrated as part of the hospitality team and not seen as a separate team. Anyone who is on the frontline interacting with guests should be integrated and equipped as part of the hospitality team. If someone is not willing to be trained, they should not be considered for the hospitality team. Expectations around greeting and hospitality have changed over the years, so team members need to be trained and reminded. It takes time to build a culture of hospitality within the hospitality team and within the church as a whole.

Lack of Congregational Culture for Extravagant Hospitality

While the hospitality team is the front line for hospitality, it is imperative to also equip the congregation in becoming welcoming and hospitable. Even if the hospitality team is top-notch, a congregant can ruin a guest experience. This can happen by telling a guest that s/he is sitting in someone’s pew, someone being or doing something rude to a guest, or even looks of judgment can run off a first-time guest.

Friendliness Is Not the End Game, It’s Only the First Step

Hospitality is about first impressions and making people feel welcome. Make sure the experience does not stop there. Helping guests connect relationally is extremely important. If a guest has a great first impression, but can not see how to connect relationally with others, we may not get the opportunity to receive them as a second-time guest. Help guests with relational connection options – not just connections to ministry. Relational connections are why people stick with a church. Is your church friendly? Or is your church practicing extravagant hospitality with an emphasis on relational connections? This distinction is key! To equip your Hospitality Team and others who interact with guests, check out this on-demand Hospitality Webinar.

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Kay Kotan

Kay’s purpose is to Equip and Empower Leaders of Faith Communities How to Engage in More Effective Ministry. Kay Kotan is the founder of You Unlimited (coaching, consulting and training company) and The Greatest Expedition – a collaboration of more than twenty thought leaders providing resources and insights for a congregational journey to develop new MAPS (ministry action plans) to reach new people in your community.  Kay also launched Multipliers’ Movement – a gathering of kingdom multipliers for sharing, equipping, and encouraging. She is a CoachU and Advanced CoachU Graduate, an accredited coach (PCC: Professional Certified Coach) with the ICF, International Coaching Federation, a Certified Path 1 Coach, a TQ (Transitional Intelligence) Certified Coach, and once served on the faculty at Coaching4Clergy. As a passionate lay person, she has a banking background and has been a business owner for more than 25 years. Kotan has served as a church developer for conferences and worked with churches, pastors, conferences, and judicatory leaders across the country for more than a decade. She is most proud to be the wife of Bob for over 30 years and the mother of their adult son, Cameron. Kay is the author of multiple books, workbooks, and resources including Gear Up: Nine Essential Processes for the Optimized Church, Cry From the Pew, Full Schedules, Barren Souls, Being the Church in the Post Pandemic World, and Journey Preparation: Surveying Your Church’s Landscape, as well as the co-author of the books titled: IMPACT!: Reclaiming the Call of Lay Ministry, Small Church Check-Up, Insights on Productivity, Renovate or Die – Ten Ways to Focus Your Church on Mission, Ministry 3.0 and Get Their Name , Ten Prescriptions for a Healthy Church, Necessary Nine – Nine Things Effective Pastors Do Differently, Launching Leaders: Taking Leadership Development to New Heights, Strategy Matters: Your Roadmap to Planning a Strategic Ministry Planning Retreat, Voices of Christmas: A Daily Devotional for Advent and Expanding the Expedition Reach Through Marketplace Multipliers. Mission Possible for the Small Church. Inside Out: Everting Ministry Models for the Postmodern Church, and more. Kotan and her co-author Bradford published their third version of the best-seller, Mission Possible: Simple Structure for Missional Effectiveness. Mrs. Kotan spends her time investing in pastors, laity leaders, congregations, and judicatory leaders through equipping, coaching, and creating resources to help them discover and live into their fullest missional potential of effectiveness and fruitfulness to reach people for Jesus Christ. Through her enthusiasm, truth-telling, and passion, she challenges those who encounter her in both their thinking and their doing.

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